Here is something you should know about me: I hate dating – everything about it. I hate meeting new people with my big, optimistic expectations, unsure if they will meet them. I hate the anxiety of having someone get to know me, wondering if I’m meeting their big, optimistic expectations. And I hate growing feelings for someone who may ultimately not like me, ghost me, disrespect me, or break my heart. In my 6 years of dating, I have experienced one disappointing and frustrating dating situation after another, to the point that I was close to quitting – just sitting back and letting “fate” take it’s course.
One of the reasons why I was so frustrated time and time again was because I couldn’t find someone who understood me and my introversion. My dream man would have to understand my quiet nature, my introspectiveness, and my need for alone time. He would be a lot of things, but mainly someone who would take the time to understand me at my core. I got to the point where I thought that dream man would remain just that, a dream.
Fortunately, that turned out to be a pessimistic passing thought. I have been in a relationship with someone who has proven those thoughts to be untrue. He is patient, kind, and actually interested in my introversion! But, this isn’t a love letter to him (sorry, Tyler), this is a love letter to you single introverts who are losing hope in finding the right one, or completely lost when it comes to dating. I have gained a good amount of experience being on the dating scene, so here are some of my biggest relationship and dating tips for introverts!